If you are one of the two or three readers of this blog, you
will be familiar with my rants regarding online dating or just dating in
general. Don’t get me wrong; most days I
don’t mind being single. However, I am
baffled as to how people meet potential significant others after college.
After reading about how many relationships these days result
from online dating sites, I thought I’d give it a whirl. As a result, I despair for the future of
humanity. You may think that I am
exaggerating, but I’m not. I've discovered that the guys that I find particularly irritating fall into a few categories:
Inappropriate Age
Inappropriate Age
...Only to discover that he's more than 20 years older than me. He and my father could have grown up together....Thank you, but NO.
Guys THat cant spell gOoD (or grammer goodly....or punkshu8...)
Short and Not-So-Sweet (see also: Boring or Generic)
Kinda Awkward and/or Creepy
A Little Too Persistent
In Conclusion...
I'm done with online dating. It was intriguing at first, amusing later, and ended up just making me sad in the end. I feel like online dating is little more at this point than an indictment of education in America. However, in the interest of full disclosure, I didn't bother using sites that require you to pay to use the site. I wasn't THAT curious about online dating. I do have at least three friends that I can think of off the top of my head who are currently dating someone that they met through a dating site like match.com or eHarmony. Maybe the lesson to take away here is that free dating sites are amusing, but less than useful, paid sites yield potentially better matches, and I should get more comfortable with my single status.
I personally love okc. The fact that I didn't pay to be on it doesn't reflect the fact that I'm a lower-quality catch. It may instead reflect the fact that free is what I can afford to pay for, and that on a free site, you can more accurately and effectively present yourself, because pay sites censor anything that might allow someone to find out who you are in real life.
ReplyDeleteThat said, there are clearly a lot of schmucks on okc. You might also enjoy this: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/12/21/nice-guys-of-okcupid-tumblr_n_2341720.html.
However I bet there are also a lot of schmucks on pay sites. They might be richer or more motivated schmucks, but I bet the proportion of schmucks to non-schmucks would be the same.
Dating is already all about looking for a needle in a haystack - finding a partner amongst the many people who are jerks, or uninteresting, or undesirable in one of a multitude of ways.
So as an indictment of okc, I don't consider the fact that it has a lot of schmucks particularly debilitating. So does life. But that doesn't mean you have to enjoy their displays of schmucktitude.
All good things,
Ryan B.